Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin recently revealed that she and her then-husband, Chris Martin, separated because they never fully settled into being a couple.
In an essay for British Vogue, Gwyneth says that she and Chris “didn’t quite fit together” and “never fully settled into being a couple,” adding that she always felt a bit of unease and unrest in their relationship.
The Goop founder further recalled when they were in Tuscany for her 38th birthday, and she felt a shift in their relationship that really signaled it was the end.
“I don’t recall when it happened, exactly. I don’t remember which day of the weekend it was or the time of day,” she wrote. “But I knew, despite long walks and longer lie-ins, big glasses of Barolo and hands held, my marriage was over.”
Gwyneth also mentioned that they both tried to avoid tearing their family apart, which included daughter Apple, now 16, and 14-year-old son Moses.
“Between the day that I knew and the day we finally relented to the truth, we tried everything. We did not want to fail,” she said. “We didn’t want to let anyone down. We desperately didn’t want to hurt our children. We didn’t want to lose our family.”
However, the two were able to find a solution in “consciously uncoupling” in 2014, although they faced unimaginable levels of backlash for going public with the then-quite unknown phrase.
“The public’s surprise gave way quickly to ire and derision,” Gwyneth wrote of the reaction they received to their announcement after 11 years of marriage.
“A strange combination of mockery and anger that I had never seen. I was already pretty tattered from what had been a tough year. Frankly, the intensity of the response saw me bury my head in the sand deeper than I ever had in my very public life.”
Great news is, despite divorcing, Paltrow and Martin are still on exceptionally good terms and have both moved on with their lives separately.